5 Musts for a Fruitful Relationship
When you decide to commit to a relationship you choose to open yourself up to an entire different individual. The bible says that no man can ever know a person’s heart completely (1 Corinthians 2:11). You have to believe that what your partner displays and shares with you is the truth. You can choose to accept those things or spend your life investigating every action and word.
This list is not exhaustive, but I find that these 5 things provide a GREAT jumpstart to any healthy relationship.
Purpose:
Relationships are meant to be a blessing. It allows two individuals to walk together in purpose in order to reach a common goal. A relationship where each individual knows their purpose builds a strong foundation and promotes healthy direction (Amos 3:3).
Boundaries:
There needs to be clear boundaries. Discuss the things you are okay with and the things you are not okay with. Talk about past hurts and family upbringing. Share cultural and religious beliefs so that a wholistic picture of your lives can be explored (2 Corinthians 6:14).
Honesty:
Being honest establishes an atmosphere of trust and commitment in a relationship. It promotes deep intimacy and healthy conflict. Honesty speaks to an individual’s character and integrity. If you find that you cannot be honest, then you need to reevaluate if that person will love you for WHO you are. To be dishonest allows room for the enemy (satan) to cause utter chaos. Good fruit cannot come from bad seed (Matthew 7: 16-20).
Communication:
Speak! Talk with love (1 Corinthians 13:2). The goal in communicating is helping the other individual to understand what you are sharing. Listen more than you speak. Over-talking one another, yelling, and silence are all blockades to communication. Communicate with purpose. There is always a cost to be right. Ask yourself….”Is Me being right worth the argument that’s about to go down?!” Unfortunately, I have answered YES many times to this.. Your goal shouldn’t be to “Win.” Communication can open doors to your relationship and allow for greater empathy and connection. Women are typically “moved” by what they hear and men by way they see. Although this may not be true for every man and woman, it is worth keeping in mind when communicating.
God:
He created you. He knows who you are. He knows the heart of ALL man. Like…He spoke alllllll of this world into reality. Nothing happens in the physical without it first happening in the spiritual. God is real. You do not have to pitter patter around Him. Ask, Seek, and Knock (Mathew 7: 7-8)! The things you cannot understand and get through, He can. To trust Him is to have an advantage! Include Him! You will not regret it. He is the ultimate cheat sheet in any relationship.
God
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